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We are so thankful for you. Our names are Sarah and Andrew, and as parents who have previously adopted, we have witnessed a small part of how difficult your journey must be. We want you to know above all else that our heart goes out to you, that we are so thankful you are here, and that we are honored you would consider us to be part of the life of your child.
We are 33 and 32 years old, we live in North Carolina, and we have been married for 10 years. Infertility has been part of our story, but our journey to adoption began long before that. We have always had a heart for adoption because we both grew up with friends who had been adopted. This gave us a desire to adopt that we discussed before we were ever married. We see now our infertility was always part of God’s plan for how he would build our family. Three years ago our son Joshua joined our family through adoption as a newborn, and we have loved every moment with him. We are very excited for him to have a sibling and know he will be a wonderful big brother!
Andrew works for a bank, and Sarah stays home full-time with Joshua. Sarah and Joshua love to spend their days playing outside in our yard, going on play dates with friends, and reading books together. Our evenings and weekends usually involve walking together as a family at a nearby park where Joshua loves to stop at the playground. We spend our Sundays with our friends from church, where we are connected with other families whose children have similar stories as Joshua. We also regularly visit our extended family in South Carolina who absolutely love to see Joshua.
We believe it is so important for our children to know their stories and how loved they are by everyone in their lives. If you pick us to raise your baby, we promise that they will grow up knowing how you made such a courageous decision to care for them. We promise that we will tell them how much we love you and are forever grateful for you. And we promise that we will pray for them and for you every day. We would love to share photos, videos, and any updates you would wish to receive throughout your child’s life. We will follow your lead for how open you would want our relationship to be, as you would forever be a part of our family’s story, and we value the incredible role you play in it.
We have so much love to offer a child. We are far from perfect, but if you choose us, our top priority will always be to love and create the best environment that we can for your child. We are praying that you will have peace as you walk through this difficult season of life. We wish only the best for you, and we support whatever you decide.
Sarah and Andrew
Expectant mothers who choose to make an adoption plan may qualify for some level of financial assistance during their pregnancy. However, each person's situation and specific needs are different. Your adoption social worker can help you determine what level of assistance you qualify for and deserve. Many expectant mothers qualify for financial assistance to cover basic pregnancy and living expenses, including but not limited to - transportation reimbursement, utility assistance for phone, water, and electricity/gas, maternity clothing and supplements, etc.
Navigating a pregnancy alone is never easy. Depending on your situation and location, you may qualify for financial assistance to help cover the cost of basic living expenses, such as food and groceries.
Receiving quality medical care during your pregnancy is vital to both your health and the health of your baby. If you choose to place your baby for adoption, all of your pregnancy-related medical expenses will be covered by the adoptive family.
Women who choose to place their baby for adoption may receive financial assistance to help cover the cost of rent and utilities. If you feel that you’ll need some help with these costs, it’s important to talk to your adoption social worker about it early in the process. Each expectant mother’s situation is different, and eligibility may vary.
In order to have a healthy pregnancy, it’s important that you have everything you need to lead a healthy lifestyle. Like food and groceries, the cost of some household items - like feminine and dental care items, along with prenatal supplements - may be covered during your pregnancy.
Placing a baby for adoption is a loving, but incredibly challenging decision to make. Many women experience an array of emotions during this time and find that counseling is very helpful in navigating those feelings. If you would like to receive counseling during or after your pregnancy, that can be arranged by your adoption social worker. The cost of counseling will be covered by the adoptive family or adoption organization.
If you need assistance with transportation, your adoption social worker can work with you to find the best solution. You may eligible for assistance with transportation costs or be connected with a transportation service to utilize during your pregnancy.
It won't cost you anything. If you choose to place your baby for adoption, all of your medical and legal fees will be covered and you may be eligible for financial assistance with other pregnancy-related expenses.
Yes. Even if you don’t know the identity of the birth father, you can still choose to make an adoption plan. However, every adoption situation is different. The adoption social worker you’re assigned to will get to know you and your story first, and then guide you through the process accordingly.
You can make an adoption plan at any point in your pregnancy, even after the baby has been born. But, it's important to start the process as early in your pregnancy as possible. Connecting with those resources will allow you to gain access to important medical services, including prenatal care, to help ensure a healthy pregnancy.
One aspect of your adoption plan is the "Hospital Plan" an outline of how you'd like your hospital stay and delivery to go. You can craft this on your own or with the help of your adoption social worker. But everything is up to you. You’ll be able to choose who comes to the hospital with you, who is in the room with you during delivery, and how much time you’d like to spend with the baby before signing the final papers.
As part of your adoption plan, you'll determine whether or not you’d like to have an open or closed adoption or something in between. Open adoptions may include phone calls, messaging (via social media, email, or text), and/or periodic visits each year. Closed adoptions may include no contact at all or annual updates provided to the birth parent(s) by the adoptive family. Each post-adoption relationship is different and can vary based on what an expectant mother chooses in her adoption plan.
Every year we look forward to Thanksgiving and Christmas. For us its a time with family, lots of activities, and good food. We spent thanksgiving with family, theres always cousins, aunts, grandparents, siblings, and even pets all together for meals. We are trying to establish our own family traditions with our little family, to keep Christmas magical and fun. We pick a new ornament each year for our son that represents his personality from the previous year and each night in December we read a christmas themed book at bedtime. We also go as a family and pick out a tree at a fun tree farm with wagon rides, petting zoo, smores to roast and decorations to see. We spend time together as a family decorating it as well. We are excited to grow our family and start these traditions with another child someday soon. Our family will be thrilled to welcome another child around the holiday table, and into their hearts along with us.
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