We met in 2010 at church and married a little over a year later in April of 2011. We have three beautiful, active, curious boys who love games, wrestling and mud! We are so looking forward to bringing a sweet princess (or 3!) in to add some pink to our current world of blue!
We cannot imagine the thoughts and feelings that you are experiencing as you walk through this journey to love your daughter(s) to the fullest. We are praying for you already and trust that you will find peace and healing through this journey.
Expectant mothers who choose to make an adoption plan may qualify for some level of financial assistance during their pregnancy. However, each person's situation and specific needs are different. Your adoption social worker can help you determine what level of assistance you qualify for and deserve. Many expectant mothers qualify for financial assistance to cover basic pregnancy and living expenses, including but not limited to - transportation reimbursement, utility assistance for phone, water, and electricity/gas, maternity clothing and supplements, etc.
It won't cost you anything. If you choose to place your baby for adoption, all of your medical and legal fees will be covered and you may be eligible for financial assistance with other pregnancy-related expenses.
Yes. Even if you don’t know the identity of the birth father, you can still choose to make an adoption plan. However, every adoption situation is different. The adoption social worker you’re assigned to will get to know you and your story first, and then guide you through the process accordingly.
You can make an adoption plan at any point in your pregnancy, even after the baby has been born. But, it's important to start the process as early in your pregnancy as possible. Connecting with those resources will allow you to gain access to important medical services, including prenatal care, to help ensure a healthy pregnancy.
One aspect of your adoption plan is the "Hospital Plan" an outline of how you'd like your hospital stay and delivery to go. You can craft this on your own or with the help of your adoption social worker. But everything is up to you. You’ll be able to choose who comes to the hospital with you, who is in the room with you during delivery, and how much time you’d like to spend with the baby before signing the final papers.
As part of your adoption plan, you'll determine whether or not you’d like to have an open or closed adoption or something in between. Open adoptions may include phone calls, messaging (via social media, email, or text), and/or periodic visits each year. Closed adoptions may include no contact at all or annual updates provided to the birth parent(s) by the adoptive family. Each post-adoption relationship is different and can vary based on what an expectant mother chooses in her adoption plan.
Hi baby girl(s)! I have no idea what your name is or even how old you are! Maybe you're not born yet, maybe you're two years old or five or nine but oh you are so loved! Your brothers, dad and I never knew that we could love or miss someone without knowing them! We pray for you and your first family daily. Even when we're on vacation, you are not far from our thoughts. We so cannot wait to have you joining in all the family fun. Your brothers got to hold alligators, snakes and birds. They got to experience the ocean for the first time and loved the waves and all the sand! I can only imagine that you will too! Little one(s) there's a space only you can fill in our family and we cannot wait to welcome you! We know that your first family is sacrificing so much right now and making incredibly hard decisions because they love you so much... which means that we will get to know and love you too. We will wait as patient as we can, but we can't wait to hold you in our arms! My heart has so much...
We had a blast together tonight as a family at the botanical gardens near us. We got to experience butterflies and plants that we don't get to see on our little hobby farm very often. Watching the kids faces light up as they explored was so fun! I can only imagine our future kiddo(s) enjoying it with us someday. Even in our moments of joy there's just a piece of us still missing and I wonder what that will look like someday! Today I'm praying for you, the expectant family, as I know you feel the pressure to choose the right forever family. I hope that just like the caterpillar that stretches and grows, that this whole process gives all of us the opportunity to see a beautiful butterfly form!