To the brave individuals reading this letter,
Our names are Ralph Andrew and Elizabeth Hope. We are truly honored to be considered a part of this child’s life. We are committed to raising children in a gentle and loving way. Our faith in Christ has helped us get to where we are at this point in our lives and we have no doubt He will continue to guide us in our parenting journey.
We, as a couple, have struggled with infertility our entire marriage. In our desire to become parents, we embarked on the journey of adopting our three daughters. In 2014, we were blessed with our first daughter, Gabriella. She is our world! She is headstrong but very smart! A year and a half later, we were pleasantly surprised with the birth of our second daughter, Ariel. She is our soccer-playing, animal lover! She wears her heart on her sleeve! In 2018, we were matched and placed with our beautiful third daughter, Emily, whose personality shines like the sun! We have strived to keep a steady stream of communication and yearly visits with members of all our daughter’s biological families. We feel this is important for our kids, and their blood relatives! We have already seen the fruits of this labor.
We have been married for over 16 years! We consider each other best friends. God has been our anchor. We love to have family and friend gatherings! Food is one of our love languages. We enjoy gathering as a family to watch the Astros or Cowboys play. We also like traveling with our kids and experiencing new things! We especially love the beach!
We are hopeful at the prospect of another adoption journey. Our daughters couldn’t be more excited for a baby brother or sister! This child will be surrounded by a loving family, caring friends and a Christian community that will love them unconditionally.
We are honored for your consideration as you make this very heavy and important decision. We admire your courage and respect the choice you make. May the Lord guide you in your decision and bring you peace, comfort and support. We pray this letter reassures you of our love for family and God’s children.
With Utmost Sincerity,
Ralph and Elizabeth
Expectant mothers who choose to make an adoption plan may qualify for some level of financial assistance during their pregnancy. However, each person's situation and specific needs are different. Your adoption social worker can help you determine what level of assistance you qualify for and deserve. Many expectant mothers qualify for financial assistance to cover basic pregnancy and living expenses, including but not limited to - transportation reimbursement, utility assistance for phone, water, and electricity/gas, maternity clothing and supplements, etc.
It won't cost you anything. If you choose to place your baby for adoption, all of your medical and legal fees will be covered and you may be eligible for financial assistance with other pregnancy-related expenses.
Yes. Even if you don’t know the identity of the birth father, you can still choose to make an adoption plan. However, every adoption situation is different. The adoption social worker you’re assigned to will get to know you and your story first, and then guide you through the process accordingly.
You can make an adoption plan at any point in your pregnancy, even after the baby has been born. But, it's important to start the process as early in your pregnancy as possible. Connecting with those resources will allow you to gain access to important medical services, including prenatal care, to help ensure a healthy pregnancy.
One aspect of your adoption plan is the "Hospital Plan" an outline of how you'd like your hospital stay and delivery to go. You can craft this on your own or with the help of your adoption social worker. But everything is up to you. You’ll be able to choose who comes to the hospital with you, who is in the room with you during delivery, and how much time you’d like to spend with the baby before signing the final papers.
As part of your adoption plan, you'll determine whether or not you’d like to have an open or closed adoption or something in between. Open adoptions may include phone calls, messaging (via social media, email, or text), and/or periodic visits each year. Closed adoptions may include no contact at all or annual updates provided to the birth parent(s) by the adoptive family. Each post-adoption relationship is different and can vary based on what an expectant mother chooses in her adoption plan.
We have been learning spanish through songs and poems. The current song we are learning is La Cucaracha. The kids LOVE THIS SONG. They use a scrubber as a microphone to sing along. I think they like the song because they know I HATE roaches. But hey, they are learning spanish! So its a win to me!
The girls have been expressing interest in cooking. Ariel has been wanting to learn to make scrambled eggs, and so today we tried! She did pretty good! Gabby saw us in the kitchen and insisited on helping warm up tortillas. That girl LOVES her tortillas, especially with beans or butter! She enjoyed warming them up! It was very heart-warming having them in the kitchen with me. They were able to tell daddy that they made most of breakfast by themselves. They were very proud of the meal.
Yesterday, our eldest, Gabby, turned 10 years old! We can't believe it!! She (and her birthmom) made us parents! We are so eternally in debt to her birthmom. We love her so much, and look forward to our visits with her! She has really opened up to us these past several years, and we have enjoyed having a relationship with her. So has Gabby!! Her birthmom is always a phone call away. Gabby is something else! She has been our greatest joy and our greatest challenge! There are no words to describe the depth of love we have for that girl. Happy 1-0, our sweet Gabby Grace!
Packing up lunch for co-op, Ariel decides she wants to take some carrots from our little garden. Emily decided she wanted carrots too. So here we are, harvesting carrots for our lunch! We've been able to get broccoli, carrots, and peas (though not much) from our itty bitty garden. Ariel really enjoys helping with the garden. Gabby, not so much. And thats okay! All our kiddos have different hobbies and desires. It has been fun figuring out everyones likes, and dislikes!
Someone gave us some abandoned cotton tail bunnies over a week ago. They are so precious! The girls have been very diligent about caring and cleaning up after them. They named them Summer and Spring. One is more friendly than the other. But they seem very comfortable with us. So much so, Ariel wanted to do school with one of them looking on! It didn't last long because the girls weren't able to focus. We finished our school day with the bunnies back in their cages.
The day after Thanksgiving, we went to a local semiprofessional basketball game. It was so fun! We were given floor seats. We tried to get a free T-shirt, but it didnt work out. The girls were very wrapped up in the game. We can't wait to go back!
We went to two seperate fall festivals this past weekend. Gabby dressed as a police officer, Ariel dressed as greek goddess and Emily wanted to be Isabela from Encanto. At the first festival, the kids played games and enjoyed slushies. Gabby won a dessert doing a cake walk. She chose a large pumpkin pie! She loves pumpkin pie! It only took us 3 days to finish the entire pie! 🐽
A cold front blew in a couple of days ago. The cool air was sooooo refreshing! So tired of sweating in 90 degree weather in October! So we did what everyone does when it gets old....we dusted off our jackets and drank hot chocolate outside in the cool breeze. It was actually Gabbys idea to go outside and guzzle down some hot chocolate. A very good idea, indeed!
Andrew was off from work this past Monday. We spent the time running errands as a family and enjoying the cooler weather. At one point, Andrew got on the piano and started messing around with it. All 3 girls immediately gravitated towards him and started "teaching" him how to properly play! It was a sweet moment to watch. 💗
Our church had a Market Day in the parking lot yesterday. We sold chocolate chip cookies, but only half of what we made actually sold. My mother in law sold fall decorations. There was a dog costume contest. A great dane in a ladybug costume won. The kids had fun! They couldn't help but spend their money on stuffed animals and gaudy jewelry.
Our poor dog, Ruby, was in desperate need of a bath. The girls thought it would be fun to bathe her themselves. So I let them have at it. Gabby poured the shampoo, Ariel scrubbed, and Emily just sat there watching. Poor dog was miserable, but at least she got a good cleaning! And it gave the kids something to do, as well!
This Monday, Emily insisted on wearing a dress for soccer practice. I tried to discourage her, but then though "why not?" All the parents laughed! Her dress didn't stop her from playing! She was happy to play in it, and looked adorable, too!
Gabby occasionally helps me make lunch, sometimes with a side of attitude. But one thing she enjoys making is deviled eggs! I boil the eggs for her and she does the rest. She eats them well, too! She is good at warming up flour tortillas, as well. It REALLY helps to have another set of hands helping in the kitchen!
We went to our nephew's outdoor wedding this weekend. Ariel was the flower girl, but man she was nervous! She did good. She wouldn't let the ring bearer hold her hand, though. (He was a couple of years older.) We were okay with that! 😄
For our nephew's wedding this past weekend, Andrew and I did a lot of cooking! I made 17 pounds of mexican rice and Andrew grilled about 60 pounds of meat for carne guisada. IT WAS DELICIOUS!! We looooooove our mexican food! And we especially love cooking for those we care about!
On Mondays, we typically run errands to a couple different grocery stores. Ruby, our doggie, usually goes with us. And we jam out to country music while waiting for our pickup orders. The girls have lately been into "Buy Me A Boat" by Chris Janson. 😂
The girls started soccer yesterday, for the fall term. It was HOT! Gabby and Ariel have been doing soccer for a couple of years, taking breaks during the winter and summer. This was Emily's first time ever, and she did great! I thought she'd hate the dust, heat and running. But, nope! She loved it!
To switch up our homeschool day, we decided to do school at our local library. Big mistake! Kids were so distracted! All they wanted to do was look at books! Plus, the library was renovating a section of the kids area that day, making lots of noise. But we got our work done. The girls are good about being flexible when things don't quite go our way!
Kids got in the pool today, as Andrew grilled meat and veggies. The kids actually ate well! A nice way to end the day!
The girls restarted piano lessons this week. Gabby and Ariel have been taking piano, on and off, for the last 2 years. But this year, Emily is starting! She is excited, as she wants to be like her big sisters!
We took a quick daytrip to the beach this past weekend. It was nice and hot! Ate lots of junk food. Kids enjoyed collecting shells and using their boogie boards on the waves.