Dear Birth Mother, 

Thank you. We can’t say that enough. We don’t know what led you down the path to make this difficult but incredibly courageous decision. What we do know, without a doubt, is you are loved and brave. Thank you for taking the time to read our book and learn more about us. We know this decision does not come lightly and we are honored to be considered as part of your adoption plan. Should you have any questions while reading our book, we would love the opportunity to speak with you.

Trevor and I met 13 years ago (2011) online via Christian Mingle and it has been history since then. I know, cheesy right?! I lived in Sterling, Colorado when we first started dating, running the preschool and daycare at my home church. Trevor lived in Steamboat, Colorado which is on the opposite corner of the state, 4.5 hours away! Trevor was working at Safeway, a grocery chain, as the meat manager. We dated long distance for 6 months before I moved to Steamboat, as Trevor had to work most weekends. Let’s be honest, there is only so much driving a girl can do! We were engaged in 2012 and then married on September 28, 2013, in Sterling, Colorado (my hometown). Our ceremony also took place in my home church. We almost had to postpone our wedding due to the biggest flood in Northeastern Colorado history. Trevor and I did a lot revamping the week before our wedding, thinking that would be the most stressful situation we would ever encounter. Our relationship has been tested with many moves relating to career opportunities and we have lived in several cities and states to bring us to where we are today.

We enjoy being outside in our backyard, gardening and playing with our two Mini Aussies: Loretta Lynn and Patsy Cline. We also love exploring Idaho, going to farmer markets, craft fairs, BSU football games, and supporting local 4-H and FFA chapters. Trevor and I also like watching romcoms, spending time with family, and traveling.

Trevor is my favorite person and the one I love being around most. He truly is my best friend and partner in life. He is kind, smart, witty, hardworking, and loving. Trevor and I both grew up in Colorado in farming/ranching communities, which not only attracted us to one another, but has helped shape us into the people we have become. We both like to go with the flow and don’t let the little things bother us.

Spending time with our family is very important to us. We love spending time with our family whenever we can, we have a great time together. The holidays are special to us especially when we are under one roof, laughing, playing, and enjoying each other’s company. Trevor and I grew up with aunts, uncles, and cousins. We have four nieces on Trevor’s side and two nephews on my side. My parents separated shortly after our wedding. In 2020, my dad was diagnosed with Multiple Myeloma (blood cancer) and passed away in May 2021. My dad was my person, and it was devastating to lose him. Trevor was my biggest support system when I lost my dad and helped me through a very difficult time.

I am caring, empathetic, loving, and fun to be around. I always try to make the best out of any situation that may be challenging. I have my degree in Elementary Education but fell in love with Early Childhood Education. I have been a Preschool Teacher, Assistant Director, Director, and now an Executive Director for a prestigious private preschool/childcare program. I have been working with children ages birth to 5 for twenty plus years, ten of those years with the same company. I love my job working with children and parents. They each have a little piece of my heart and it is so rewarding to see children and parents grow, knowing I was part of their journey.

We are planning to adopt because we have always wanted to be parents but have not been able to conceive our own biological children. We have always known that we wanted to adopt even if we did conceive naturally. We know that we do not have to physically have a child to make us parents. We have unconditional love to give. Our family means so much to us and have been big supporters of us since we entered the adoption journey.

Trevor and I both will be taking time off once placement has been made. I will have at least 6-8 weeks of leave from work and Trevor will also get a couple of weeks along with being able to work from home while I am on leave. The great thing about my job is that I will be able to take the baby with me each day to work and be with the baby, watching them learn and grow.

We are open to any type of adoption; open, semi, or closed. We will respect what works best for you and your wishes. Please know that whatever you choose, we are here to support you. We are fully committed to this adoption journey and would love to get to know you, have a relationship with you, and support you by attending doctor appointments, etc.

Thank you for your time and getting to know a little bit more about us. We know this must be extremely overwhelming, but from the bottom of my heart, thank you. Thank you for making this selfless decision and for considering us to be part of your adoption plan. Please let me know if you have any questions or would like to speak with us.

With Love From, 

Stephanie

Dear Birth Mother, 

I don’t know if anyone has told you this but, thank you for being a great mother. I understand how difficult it is to make hard decisions yet I admire your bravery. My wife, Stephanie, and I would like to express our gratitude for taking the time to read our adoption book and for considering us to be a part of your adoption plan.

Stephanie and I have been together for 13 years and met the old-fashioned way... you know... online dating!! We were both born and raised in Colorado and moved to the Boise area two years ago thanks to my career with a major grocery chain. At the time, Stephanie and I felt we needed a change in our lives and wanted to explore someplace new, as we had only experienced living in Colorado. Our choice to move to Idaho has been the best yet and we truly feel at home and have made it our happy place.

Stephanie and I both grew up in supportive and close-knit agricultural families. I split time growing up between my parents’ home during the school year, and with my grandparents on our family ranch during the summers, holidays, and spring break. I loved spending as much time as possible on the ranch and learning that lifestyle. I grew up appreciating hard work, loving animals, and that sometimes the smallest things can bring the most happiness. My parents and grandparents encouraged my older twin brothers and I to explore our interests. The opportunities included showing livestock in 4-H and FFA programs. Growing up in agriculture and being involved in 4-H and FFA programs really shaped me to be who I am today. I am proud to be able to have a career in the agricultural/grocery industry and support the youth in both programs. Stephanie and I share the passion of the agricultural life and we would love to expose our child(ren) to the lifestyle once they are old enough.

As Stephanie mentioned in her letter, our families are very important to us. They may be farther in distance since we moved to Idaho, but we still stay in contact often and try to meet up with our immediate family several times a year. I have four nieces between my two older brothers and Stephanie has a brother and two nephews. My parents separated after 25 years of marriage when I was in my early 20's. Once their children moved out, they grew apart and realized they no longer had much in common. I still have a great relationship with my mom and stepdad, and with my dad and stepmom. If anything, it’s more grandparents to spoil their grandkids! Both of our families fully support our adoption plans and look forward to having another niece, nephew, or grandchild to love on. We are also blessed to have support from extended family as well as friends that have become like family.

I was blessed with meeting the love of my life and best friend when Stephanie came into my life. Stephanie is the hardest working, caring, sweet, loving, and most beautiful woman I have ever met. We love doing life together and are great at supporting each other, in good and bad moments. Stephanie flourishes in her career in the early childhood field. I am so proud of her for being a positive influence in so many young children’s lives, which is also rewarding to her. We have tried unsuccessfully to have children naturally but have always discussed adoption as being an option since conceiving naturally has not been in God’s plan for us. We now know that adoption is in that plan, and we are looking forward to accomplishing that dream. I know that Stephanie is going to be a fantastic mother and I am so happy that we are finally able to achieve our dream of being parents.

Stephanie and I have decided to adopt because we have so much love to give and know we can offer a child a great place to grow up and thrive. We believe that a child should be allowed to explore, grow, dream, and accomplish their goals in a positive and fun environment. We look forward to taking family trips, exploring more of Idaho and the world, creating memories and laughter every day as a family. We will be parents that guide our child(ren) to make good decisions and become respectful, helpful, and contributing members of society. I know that we will be great parents and look forward to including you in whatever level of openness you are comfortable with. If anything changes, we understand and will adjust accordingly.

I have never been one to talk about myself, but I am described as a big teddy bear with a personality to match. I was very shy as a child and took time to come out of my shell, but I love with a big heart and have a dry (but fun) sense of humor. I enjoy making people laugh, whether it’s telling bad dad jokes that make Stephanie roll her eyes or singing the wrong words to a song on the radio. For some reason, lyrics and names are the only things I struggle to remember. Stephanie and I are a laid back, go with the flow couple that enjoy supporting others and our community.

Thank you for taking the time to learn about us and read our adoption book. We know this is an overwhelming and difficult decision but thank you for considering us for your adoption plan. Thank you for making this selfless decision and being a great mother. Please let us know if you have any questions or desire to talk with us more.

With Love From, 

Trevor